I have learned that the more vulnerable I allow myself to be, the more in control of myself I really am.
Many of us feel that we can only show our strong, confident side. We believe the face we have to show to the world should always be one of politeness, perfection, calm, strength, and control. While it is certainly good and often appropriate to be in control, calm, and strong, there is another side to all of us – that part of us that feels needy, becomes frightened, has doubts, and gets angry. That part of us that needs care, love, and reassurance those things will be okay. Expressing these needs makes us vulnerable and less than perfect, but this side needs our acceptance too. Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable will help us build lasting relationships. Sharing our vulnerabilities helps us feel close to people and helps others feel close to us. It helps us grow in self-love and self-acceptance. It helps us become healing agents. It allows us to become whole and accessible to others. Self-acceptance means that you understand who you are and where your strengths and weaknesses lie and limitations. You know what you want. This will allow you to be comfortable with your place in the world. When things change and end, we become trusting of the cycles of life as steps to evolutionary growth. Yes alleviates our suffering by freeing us from clinging to anything at all. When things do not go according to our plans, we stretch our potential for trusting a power beyond our ego. Our ego’s futile and ferocious attempts to make everything come out its own way give way to letting the chips fall where they may. Yes frees us from the suffering caused by the compulsion to be in charge. Though it is difficult to practise but later on it is like “Acceptance is seeing more clearly “ the now and tomorrow”. Acceptance means different things to different people. Acceptance, to me, is when you make the conscious decision to be at peace about an event or person that perhaps previously you would have been judgmental about, but no longer have the desire to be that way and so respect their freedom of choice.By accepting people ,places and things we move on. We do not have to take their path, nor do they have to take ours. We may walk a while together or we may not. With acceptance in our hearts, there is room for us all to walk different roads or the same ones – sometimes arm in arm, sometimes miles apart – without hurting one another along the way and allowing plentiful space for tolerance to grow by the roadside. While growing up, many of us did not receive the unconditional love we deserved. Many of us were abandoned or neglected by important people in our life. We may have concluded that the reason we weren’t loved was because we were unlovable. Blaming ourselves is an understandable reaction, but an inappropriate one. If others couldn’t love us, or love us in ways that worked, that’s not our fault. In life, we are learning to separate ourselves from the behaviour of others. And we’re learning to take responsibility for our healing, regardless of the people around us. Just as we may have believed that we’re unlovable, we can become skilled at practicing the belief that we are lovable. This new belief will improve the quality of our relationships. It will improve our most important relationship: our relationship with our self. We will be able to let others love us and become open to the love and friendship we deserve. Help me God to practice this belief until it gets into my core and manifests itself in my relationships.