Book(S) I LoVE


 I Inspire – A Journey of Recovery and Healing 

This is the story of a brave soul who managed to survive the battle of Cancer. The idea of using spiritual practices to help people recovering from cancer is a miracle in itself. Acceptance of the disease is the point where recovery starts. The tools of spirituality are open for anyone to use no matter which path they choose in recovery. It is recommended that the individual experiments with these spiritual practices until they find what works best for them. “I Inspire “ is not only inspiring but a brave journey of Neerja Malik  towards self discovery and healing . Spiritual life is not a theory, it works, but we have to live it and it is worth.

There is a saying , “ This , too shall pass .” In essence, it means not to judge the situations that you may find yourself in, whether it is pleasant, unpleasant, sad or disappointing. By uttering these words to yourself, you will realize for yourself that every feeling, emotion, thought or situation in life is temporary. It also teaches us about acceptance, to not resist and to accept whatever we may be facing in our life. At a deeper level, if we can come to realization that life is impermanent, the better off we will be. We have to flow with life, adjust to change or circumstances, and realize that, nothing that I have in this world is a guarantee. We strive to meet our journey in life wisely – only when we keep in mind life’s ebbs and flows. Whether it is disappointing, frustrating or a pleasant experience it will soon come and pass away.

We often ask in desperation, Why, me God? And this is real. We absorb our beliefs from our parents, teachers, life experiences, books, etc. Some of what we have come to believe may sound right, but in reality our views might be too narrowly defined or inaccurate. We have bought into many ideas and concepts that distort our right thinking and actually work against us. We are quick to judge the event as good or bad. What if we were to eliminate the possibility that anything that happens to us is inherently bad and choose to believe that everything that happens to us is always good? Somewhere in our belief system, we may have come to believe that we deserve to be blessed because we have been diligent to honor God, been a good person, fed the hungry, or helped our neighbor. We often believe that the things we do should keep us from harm’s way. Then when something bad happens, we are confused and ask God why. You are not alone. God has not abandoned you and He has not singled you out, no matter how you feel right now. Whatever you are going through, God’s promise is that He will see you through and give you the strength and direction you need. Surrender; the place that those of us on a spiritual path call home , THY WIIL , NOT MINE ,BE DONE is the message of Neerja Malik . Finally, spirituality is an inner path enabling a person to discover his/her being.




The calling is a journey of a troubled and unstable soul. In fact we are in the same boat as Arjun is. Coping family, job and life , finally a person hits his rock bottom. Hitting rock bottom is bouncing back. Sometimes God lets you hit rock bottom because you will discover that He is at the bottom.

Sometimes we’re mistaken about the source of our unhappiness. We walk around with a short fuse, ready to explode if anyone crosses our path. Then, when we do explode, we think it is the other person’s fault. At other times we have frightening physical reactions and worry that something is wrong with our bodies. But we are not aware that a deeper feeling of not being able to stand ourselves causes the problem. Most of us have problems accepting ourselves. When we make peace with our consciences, some of our problems vanish. Other problems may never disappear, but our pain is eased because our inner battle has ceased and we have the energy we need to cope.

We all have our callings, some are aware and some are not. The karmic cycle , we get what we have done . It is very simple. We don’t many wrongs being unaware. Unacceptance of our mental slavery, we land in abyss. We have lost our inner voice in the cacophony of life. It not something physical rather it is an emotional and spiritual place within us.

Arjun’s life like ours is too busy , anxieties are too great, the whisper of the Sadhu ( inner voice )tends to become louder. It becomes a knock. And sometimes it becomes a ton of bricks falling on the head or a sickness that forces one to slow down and listen.

We can learn to listen for this voice. We can withdraw from the mundane of the world and cacophony of our mind, even if only for a moment, to stop and breathe – to meditate. Meditation is the silencing of the mind so one can hear one’s own life speaking to us. Meditation helps us reach a deeper place within ourselves where we can bring forth new revelations and visions, deeper insights and healing, greater love and peace. Meditation will provide a roadmap to our calling.

Our own discovery is important in life rather than others or reforming others. Introspection, inventories while meditating, we recognise our wrongs and try to make amend on that. That’s why spirituality is selfish. Self care is a divine responsibility. Because if we are ok than we can take care of others. So this priority. First things first. Abandoning one’s will to God’s will ( Ishwara Pranidhana) is highest practice one can do to cultivate spiritual awareness . is not only a mental sadhana. Outer changes also help to attain ishwara pranidhana ( Thy will be done ). What made St Francis of Assisi a saint? It was not his realization of God or Christ, or religion, or his compassion and love. It was the vow he had taken of poverty and chastity. To move from a life of luxury to a life of poverty and to maintain the discipline is very difficult. Do we have the capacity to make external changes in our life, to take a vow and live it, or are we too weak and infirm? A vow, or vrat, reflects a change in lifestyle. Test yourself. Undergo a little physical hardship. One night a week sleep on a mattress on the floor. One day a week miss one meal and have something light to eat for the next. In this manner by adjusting certain situations and conditions and disciplining yourself little by little, you will find that your lifestyle will influence your mind and your mental receptivity.

This what The Calling – Unleash Your True Self authored by Priya Kumar is all about a journey of freedom and a journey of self discovery.



I am 16 I can rape – A novel

Kirtida is a clinical psychologist turned screenplay writer who completed her education from the Film and Television Institute of India (FTII), Pune, India. Her passion for psychology and writing inspired her into writing psychological thrillers. A social message is hidden in the book which compels the reader to think again and again.  Rape laws in order to be of great deterrence, must have a cooperative victim, professional investigation, diligent prosecution; and an expeditious trial. For otherwise it shall not be the law, that fails, but the applicants, the process and application. What makes rape sentencing different from sentencing for other crimes? Unlike other offences, the crime of rape carries its own baggage. Over the years, stereotypical and patriarchal notions have developed with regard to women’s sexual behavior. Most of these notions are based on the assumption that the chastity and virginity of a woman are her most important “assets.” Popular notions consider rape as a fate worse than death since it robs women of these “virtues” and casts a stigma over victims for the rest of their lives. In these imaginations, rape is not a crime against a woman’s sexual autonomy or bodily integrity, but an irreparable loss to her chastity, “modesty,” and social standing.

The novel #IAm16ICanRape: The War Against Rape Culture questions the juvenile justice system of India and raises opinion against growing rape culture. The author said , “When I read about the Nirbhaya rape case in the newspaper, like many Indians, I felt terrible rage towards the people who tortured her. But what baffled me the most was the fact that the state was not considering the severity of the crime while deciding the punishment for the juvenile in the case. I studied gender violence and juvenile delinquency for two years to figure out if the action of the state makes sense. Even though my knowledge about gender violence has increased a lot, as a psychologist, I still think that it is an inappropriate lethargy on the part of the state to provide the juvenile justice system umbrella to the youth of the country. The state is doing a disservice to the youth by playing the Blind father Dhrithrashtra.

The law of rape is not just a few sentences. It is a whole book, which has clearly demarcated chapters and cannot be read selectively. We cannot read the preamble and suddenly reach the last chapter and claim to have understood and applied it.

However, Justice Verma commission has pointed out some changes, broadening the definition of consent, so a woman’s failure to resist physically can no longer be regarded as consent, and requiring “unequivocal voluntary agreement” to sexual activity; a victim’s sexual history is no longer considered relevant and she cannot be cross-examined about it or her “moral character”; rapes can be committed by more than penises, in that they can include objects used as substitutes for a phallus; while the archaic idea of “outraging the modesty of a woman” remains in the law, there are new sentences of one to three years for offensive touching, gestures or words, treating them as sexual assault.

In these imaginations, rape is not a crime against a woman’s sexual autonomy or bodily integrity, but an irreparable loss to her chastity, “modesty,” and social standing. It’s my personal opinion that society will pay a huge price for neglecting their children. As per the citation from the Mahabharata, dharma eva hato hanti dharmo raksati raksitah (It is dharma that destroys when destroyed. It is dharma again that protects when protected.) The crux is nobody stands for you because nobody else has been raped. One needs huge courage to stand for this cause. The victim is on the verge of losing everything. Her social rehabilitation is difficult and her marriage prospects are next to impossible.



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